A fight, a disappointment, a Miscommunication. Ask yourself: What could I have done differently? What could we have done differently? What can we learn from this? Then talk to your partner about it, starting with what you could have done differently.

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All relationships need a little pick-me-up sometimes— These actions will make your partner feel loved, appreciated and desired, and will, in turn, make you feel more connected to him/her. Whether you’d like to increase intimacy, find a thoughtful way to say “I love you,” or just show your honey some gratitude, we’re sure you’ll find something useful in the list below.

And since the world (and our site!) is full of loving, creative souls, we hope you’ll share with us, in the comments section below, the special ways you share love and strengthen your bond with your significant other. We hope you’ll bookmark this page and refer back to it whenever you need relationship inspiration. Read the whole list, or skip to your favorite category from the list below.

 Create Intimacy

1. Lie down on the bed and spend two minutes looking into each other’s eyes without saying anything. (Blinking is OK.)

2. Next time you’re in bed pull the covers over your head and have a whispered conversation. If you whisper first he’ll probably whisper back—it’s incredibly intimate.

3. Listen to each other. Think you already do that? Try active listening. Ask your partner to talk about something, and after each sentence (or paragraph) repeat what you heard. Start with, “I heard…” You don’t have to repeat back the words verbatim, just say what you think she said. If you misinterpret or leave out anything, your partner will correct you. Take turns doing this. It’s great for intense discussions, arguments, or just a weekly ritual to improve communication. How To Communicate Effectively

4. Pray together. If you’re comfortable talking about it, discuss what you pray about.

5. Do the wonder intimacy exercise. (From The Marriage First Aid Kit.) Free associate and list sentences starting with “I wonder” on a piece of paper. (I wonder if I’ll ever learn to cook. I wonder if I’ll ever cook for you. I wonder if I could love you more than I do.) Take turns reading your wonders to your partner, without judging, commenting or analyzing. This may feel silly at first, but just try it and see what happens.

6. Do the nostalgic memory exercise. (From The Marriage First Aid Kit.) Pick a shared memory from “the honeymoon period” of your relationship. Discuss the memory and take turns talking about a) sensory memories (sights, sounds, smells) b) what you were thinking and c) what you were feeling.

7. Set time aside every day for mutual silence.

8. Pet Names. Sure, you can call each other baby, boo, or schmoopy, but coming up with a nickname only you two get is cute and provides a little laugh. Studies have shown that nicknames are a sign of a strong relationship. Others might not think “Bomboushay Yaya” is endearing, but if it means something to you then that’s all that matters.

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9. Say something positive—anything at all. Researchers have found that happy couples have a ratio of five positive comments to each negative comment.

10. Think of one quirky thing she does that you love and tell her about it.

11. Ask him what he was like when he was a little kid.

12. Tell him he looks sexy in that shirt (pants, shorts, insert the appropriate item of clothing).

13. Compliment something that he’s improved upon.

14. Tell him he makes you a better person, and then tell him how.

15. If you’re feeling anxious about something, ask your partner to be your stress absorber. Ask him to listen as you explain what you’re worrying about. The catch is that he doesn’t have to say anything—no reassurances or offers of assistance. He just has to pay attention to what you’re saying and offer you a hug or hold your hand. As you’re talking, imagine your stress dissipating as the words leave your mouth.

16. The next time she does something that makes you angry, before you say something about it stop and ask yourself, “What am I really mad about?” Little things can often be masks for deeper issues. If you decide it’s a larger issue, hold your tongue and bring it up when you’re not mad.

17. Accept her apology. If you’ve been fighting, and she makes an attempt to reconcile, don’t rebuff her.

18. If she holds a notable position in her field (or even if not) remind her of how awesome she is at her job and how it intensifies your amazement of her.

Be Vulnerable
19. Apologize for something you never apologized for, even though you knew it was your fault.

20. Tell her a sexual fantasy you’ve always felt embarrassed about.

21. If there’s a secret you’ve been wanting to share with him, write a list of five reasons you’re afraid to say it, five ways you could phrase it, and five possible reactions he could have. Then pick one phrase and do it.

22. Think about something your partner does that makes you feel bad, but you haven’t told him about. (If this doesn’t exist for you, great! Skip this one.) Decide what you’d like him to do instead, and tell him about it like this: Next time you’re feeling relaxed and loving, say, “I want to tell you something. Sometimes I feel <insert feeling here> when you <whatever it is that makes you feel bad.> Could you do <what he could do instead> instead?”

23. Think about a time when something went wrong between the two of you—a fight, a disappointment, a miscommunication. Ask yourself: What could I have done differently? What could we have done differently? What can we learn from this? Then talk to your partner about it, starting with what you could have done differently.

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24. Make a special treat. Even if you’re on a diet, there’s always room for a little snack once a week. Maybe it’s a food from her childhood (like the s’mores her dad used to make when they went camping) or something that reminds him of your first date (spicy homemade guacamole? no problem!). A little treat that you’ve either made or just remembered to pick up will show you’re thinking about the two of you.

25. Cook a meal together. Divide up the tasks so you can both be in the kitchen working at the same time.

26. Make breakfast for him. It’s more unexpected than lunch or dinner.

27. Next time you’re at the corner store, pick up his favorite candy or gum.

28. Pack her a lunch to take to work. Bonus: put it in a paper bag with a note. Double bonus: include a small piece of chocolate.

29. Think of a piece of food that he likes but is difficult to find and order it online.

30. Use a toothpick to write “I love you” on the outside of an unpeeled banana. It’ll turn dark in a few hours and he’ll be able to see it.

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It is hard to when someone breaks up or gets out of a relationship. The last thing you would be thinking about is falling in love all over again. It is so normal to go through that feeling and it is painful to see someone go through it.

With that said, it should be just a matter of time before you can love again and be ready for a relationship and perhaps it is a much better the your previous one.

Here are some tips and good information that will help guide you build your next love relationship:

Free Yourself

The average person falls in love seven times prior to marriage. Does this shock you? I bet you’re thinking, “Wow, seven times, that’s a lot! I haven’t been in love that many times.” You’re not alone. I have yet to find someone who can attest to this figure. Interestingly enough, what I have found is that most people rarely, if ever, have been in love. Moreover, many believe that love is not even possible for them. The most popular response I received when I tweeted that statistic was, “Paul, I have only been in love once and don’t think I can love again.” Perhaps they’ve been hurt, burned bad by someone in their past, and something inside just doesn’t want to become vulnerable again to love’s ways. I am dedicating this post to everyone (men and women) who do not believe that love after loss is possible. I am here to tell you it is! These 12 steps will lead you to love again.

You can’t love again until you heal the pain that your lost love inflicted. Grieve, and as you do, you will become more emotionally healthy.  Continue Reading →

Dating advce to women from men

Want some real dating advice for women?Your friends are great. They know you, they know your dating history, they know the kind of men you go for, who better is there to get advice for relationships?

But let me ask you this: Has the approach you’ve taken got you the results you want?

The mistake that I encounter the most when coaching women is the absolute belief they have in the wisdom of their friends.

Yet with most of our friends there are two things you should know about their relationships:

a. They just fell into them by sheer fluke

b. Their relationship isn’t as good as it looks

As a result, these friends often give us terrible advice.  Continue Reading →

The Islamic Republic of Iran has declared it will set the first phase of its domestic Internet network by 21 May. The launch of the network is a priority of his ministry in the new Iranian year that started on 20 March saying by Iranian Minister of Communication and Information Technology Reza Taghipour. That works far disclosed on a local centre, domestic email service and search engine are underway but did not give more details.

The project, named as the “Halal” Internet, filter out deemed inappropriate un-Islamic content. Iranian officials insist the project would be “aimed at Muslims on a ethical and moral level”.  Continue Reading →

Traditional headache  specialists have started recommending alternative therapies for migraine  sufferers, who often have to soldier through debilitating headaches without much  relief.

Pain Relief

“There’s clearly a need for better medications  to treat migraines,” said Dr. Roger Cady, director of the Headache Care Center  in Springfield, Mo.

Even the best medication we have doesn’t work for one-third of sufferers. And  pain medications can cause rebound headaches if taken too often. So some  frustrated migraine patients have turned to natural  remedies for help in preventing migraine attacks or minimizing their pain  once a headache hits.

The good news is that a handful of supplements  have proven to be effective in a number of small studies. Though supplement  makers don’t have the big bucks to do large scale studies, smaller studies have  convinced some specialists—and many patients—that some of these alt meds are  worth a try, especially since they come with a low risk of side effects. Caveat:  Always discuss your treatment with a doctor, and don’t take these supplements  without consulting a doctor if you are pregnant or breastfeeding.   Continue Reading →

Sexiest US Towns for Dating after 40

The dating scene gets a bad rap, but the way we see it, your 30s, 40s, and  50s can be a great time to find love (or lust)—especially if you know where to  look. To help stack the odds in your favor, we combed data from the country’s  biggest cities to find the areas with the most vibrant social scenes, the  biggest dating pools for the 35-55 set—and where the ratio of single   Continue Reading →

You deal with the fallout of not getting enough sleep  by feeling a little groggy every morning. But what you may not realize is the  domino effect at work here, and it’s much more dangerous than just feeling  tired. Increasingly, researchers tell us, it’s clear that “short sleeping” can  get us into plenty of trouble with our health.  Insufficient sleep  is linked not only to obesity—which brings its own set of health issues—but  also to a host of other maladies. Here’s a sampling of health  problems you might bring on by skimping on sleep.
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“Absorb what is useful, reject what is useless, add what is specifically your own.” – Bruce Lee

 

Being highly productive is not an innate talent; it’s simply a matter of organizing your life so that you can efficiently get the right things done.   Continue Reading →

New year, new dating life. And good guys do exist. Here’s the dating advice you need to let go of your relationship hang-ups and start meeting men.

Ex-tract! Remove ex-everythings from your space.
Move forward by not actually being able to go backward: Hide your ex on chat, delete his phone number, defriend him on Facebook and unfollow his Twitter. And we’re not just talking about ex-boyfriends—this includes ex-hookups, ex–booty calls, ex-FWBs and any other Bad News Dudes.   Continue Reading →

Some people say that a “Marry me” ultimatum is the least romantic thing on the planet. They’re wrong. It’s actually No. 4 on the list, behind only root canals, zits and “Battlestar Galactica” jokes. Ultimatums are scary. Ultimatums can backfire. There are some scenarios, of course, where the guy really is dragging his feet and needs a little extra nudge. Let’s assume that’s the case here. So how do you get him to propose in the new year?

Your options:

1. Frequently talk about your dream wedding.
He’ll love this! Show him photos of ice sculptures, wedding dresses, flowers and wedding cakes. If, however, your boyfriend is not Franck from Father of the Bride, consider a different route. He probably likes the idea of marrying you, but the specific tactics of a wedding can seem overwhelming.

2. Give the runner a signal.
There are loads of possible reasons why a guy hasn’t proposed, and fear of rejection is one of them. Eliminate this fear. Give the runner a signal that it’s okay to round the bases — you can do this with innuendo subtler than “I expect you on one knee by midnight of December 31.”   Continue Reading →

You agreed to stick it out through sickness and health and for richer or poorer, but marital vows don’t address the other big things that can untie your knot—boredom, feeling out of touch—or worse, platonic friendship instead of an in-love partnership. While honeymoon headiness will inevitably decline, that doesn’t mean your relationship has to nosedive as well. In fact, some of marriage’s best highlights—raising a family and developing a deeper, more profound connection—require years of togetherness.

Fortunately, there are many things you can do to ensure your relationship stays strong over time. We talked to experts who studied the habits of the nation’s happiest couples for their top bonding tips and here they are:

1. Shake up date night  Continue Reading →

Muscle Up Your Immunity
Staying healthy isn’t just about using hand sanitizer and avoiding coughing co-workers.
 
It turns out some pretty surprising daily habits—like how you fight with your husband or whether you stay up late for Letterman—can impact how well your body fends off colds, flu and other pesky bugs. Here’s a list of science-backed tips to add to your stay-healthy arsenal today.
 
1. You Avoid the Water Cooler
Friendship may be Miracle-Gro for your immune system.
 
Research shows that the fewer human connections we have at home, at work, and in the community, the likelier we are to get sick, flood our brains with anxiety-causing chemicals, and live shorter lives than our more sociable peers. In one study, researchers who monitored 276 people between the ages of 18 and 55 found that those who had 6 or more connections were 4 times better at fighting off the viruses that cause colds than those with fewer friends.
 
What to do: Don’t let a jam-packed workday or hectic schedule get in the way of your friendships. Stop by a co-worker’s office for a quick Monday morning catch-up, or e-mail/text your friends at night to stay in touch when you’re too busy for phone calls.


Okay, one of the things we debate at Araboosh (when we are not too busy and consumed by news) is films, or which film is the best to watch. I can tell you like most ARabs, we have agreed to disagree!

So each of the Araboosh bloggers will share with you a review of good movie they have watched recently. Feel free to voice your opinion.

I will start with my favourit film of all times … Old Boy!

Oldboy is a SOuth Korean with a Shakespearian feeling to it. It is a tale of revenge. Oh Dae-Su ( Acted by Min-sik Choi), one night on is way home to to celebrate his daughters birthday, gets kidnaped. He is  imprisoned in a small room. His only contact with the world is a small TV. He spends 15 years locked inside that room. After 15 years Oh Dae-su is released from his imprisonment. He leaves with rage and determination to find out who was behind is imprisonment and revenge is high on his agenda! This is where the movie starts. I shall say no more!

The the cinematography used in Oldboy is amazing. Well directed, acted and scripted. The film is ultra violent … in a classy kind of way!

A must watch!

 

Thanks for reading.

Nahar

Practically everyone is on Facebook these days, and it’s a handy way for guys to check girls out. In a perfect world, what does a gent like to see on a lady’s Facebook page? One Glamour writer spells it out.

Not long ago, Mark Zuckerberg — the world’s youngest potential billionaire, and the world’s least awkward performer (if SNL was any indication) — got a letter from Congress, which is concerned with Facebook sharing our data, like phone numbers, to make money. This got me thinking, when I’m creeping girls on Facebook — I’d like to just say “checking girls out,” but we all know it’s “creeping” — what do I want to see?  Continue Reading →

Greetings all.

Like many of you, I am disappointed with the contents (or lack of) that is added regularly and in spite of the seeming neglect towards this main blog, Araboosh as a site is still exceptionally very active with members joining daily. As a contributing member, I am still involved in a limited capacity in review and writing role.This is due to the constraints of both of time and work.

However, this is not an excuse. I feel personally Araboosh is running on the back of a few dedictaed inviduals (Nicole, Lina and Gharam) most whom have full time jobs/students outside of Araboosh.

But still, this is not an excuse for the site’s limited content. We are looking for more content from our members in the form blogs about: love & relationships, entertainment and of course the political situation in Middle East that no one can ignore.The blogs can be in Arabic,English or French so are the comments.

So we ask all of our members to either join us as blogers or at least as contributers with valid comments. Araboosh by Arabs for Arabs and we hope to hear your opinions.

Feel free to email me on Araboosh. My screen name is Nahar.

 

Thank you for reading.

Nahar

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The difference in men’s and women’s attitudes toward sex are often taken for granted. Men want sex, women want commitment; men look for attractive mates and women go after social status. 

But not all psychologists are on board with these gender-essentialist statements.

In a new review, University of Michigan psychologist Terri Conley and colleagues sift through psychology studies and find gender differences aren’t always as black-and-white (or pink-and-blue) as they seem. Here are six gender differences that may not be innate after all.

1. Men want “sexy,” women want “status”

An underpinning of evolutionary psychology is that men look for sexy women who are likely to provide them with attractive, healthy offspring, while women are more concerned than men about getting a high-status mate who can be a good provider.  Continue Reading →

Dating should be a fun experience. To make sure you’re enjoying yourself, while staying safe, be aware of common signs in people with abusive personalities. If you’re using an online dating service, look for these types of traits in possible matches:

  • Extreme jealousy or possessiveness
  • Pushes for quick and intense involvement
  • Seems too good to be true
  • Needs to be in control
  • Unrealistic expectations of the relationship
  • Easily upset or angered

Flirting isn’t obvious. If you’re up-front about your desire to date someone, you’re not flirting. In a flirtatious interaction, the excitement comes from the hint at a possibility.
For many people, the thrill of flirting is simply receiving attention. To get that attention, you have to give it. Use nonverbal signals — eye contact, standing just a little closer than normal, facing the person when he or she is speaking. There’s no one magic pick-up line. Rather, it’s up to you to figure out what kind of conversation the other person might enjoy. “Wow, I like your shirt” is perfectly OK in the right context, and much better than a line that sounds rehearsed.
Next, wait for a response before sending the next signal. If the person backs away, frowns, folds arms or starts flirting with someone else, don’t make things worse by following him/her around. You’ve got your answer.  Continue Reading →

Internet dating allows you to post your own unique dating profile. You remain in control at all times. With that in mind, first date advice starts at this beginning point. You can increase the chance of success by remembering one simple tip: Always be honest.

Do not lie. Be genuine. Be yourself. Online dating success relies on representing yourself for who you really are. The anonymity of the Internet allows people to embellish, leave things out, or even just create a whole new person. Inevitably, a first date will not work out when the people finally meet in person. It’s much better to be up front with who you are and what you’re looking for. This attracts the kind of people you want to meet. Even if you get fewer responses, the chances of a date working out and moving to a second date are greater.  Continue Reading →

Solve Conflicts by taking the LEAD

Conflict is not in and of itself a bad thing. In fact, conflicts in relationships can be constructive when used as a vehicle for improving communication. The following four steps can help you use conflict as a tool for gaining clarity, creating deeper understanding and strengthening relationships.

When you are in the midst of conflict, take the LEAD to manage it respectfully and calmly.

Listen to what is being said. Many times, conflict arises from a simple lack of understanding or miscommunication. Avoid making assumptions about what you hear. Instead, ask for clarification. For example, “I heard you say X, is that what you meant?”
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People have varying degrees of comfort with conflict. Some prefer avoiding it at all costs. Unfortunately, those costs tend to increase the longer issues are left unaddressed. Therefore, learning how to manage and resolve conflict is to your benefit. When dealing with conflict: 

  • Treat it as normal and expected. Conflict need not be catastrophic or personal. Conflict is simply part of being human.
  • Deal with issues as they arise. Avoiding conflict makes situations worse. Time does not resolve matters. Instead, it decreases the chance of a positive outcome.
  • Attempt to understand the other person’s point of view. Dismissing the other’s views, assigning blame, and exclusive focus on your own perspective are all counterproductive.  Continue Reading →

أكدت المطربة اللبنانية مايا نصري أنها تصلي يوميًّا وتطلب من الله سبحانه وتعالى أن يمنحها نعمة الأمومة، مشيرةً إلى أنها قد تترك الفن وتعتزل الغناء أو أي شيء في الدنيا إذا تعارض مع رعايتها أطفالها.

وقالت مايا، في مقابلة مع برنامج “العصابة” على قناة “الحياة” الفضائية، مساء الأحد 28 أغسطس/آب: “أتمنى أن أكون أمًّا. وأصلي لرب العالمين من أجل تحقيق هذه الأمنية. وأدعو كل أصدقائي ومُحبيَّ إلى أن يصلوا من أجلي حتى أنجب”.

وأضافت: “الأمومة أهم عندي من أن أكون مطربة ناجحة أو فنانة مشهورة. وأعتبرها أهم شيء في الدنيا. ولا أعتقد أن مُحبيَّ سيغضبون مني لأني سأجلس لتربية ابني في أول سنة في حياته أو حتى يصير في عمر لا يحتاجني فيه بصفة ضرورية”.

وشددت على أنه إذا رُزقت بطفل، ومنحها الله سبحانه وتعالى القدرة على أن تكمل الفن بجانب الأمومة فإنها لا تمانع، وإن لم يقدرها على مواصلة الفن بجانب الأمومة، فإنه أحب إلى قلبها أن تترك أي شيء في الدنيا من أجل أطفالها

 

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Ever since Chad Thompson kicked a pile of wet leaves on me during third grade recess, I’ve been drawn to the challenge of a wayward guy with zero interest in me. (I would have married Chad right there on the playground if he’d asked.)

 It took a doozy of a relationship—with a man who was only vaguely interested in me, emotionally unavailable, and in the process of getting over a troubled childhood—for me to take stock and realize that every guy I’d fallen for was either hard to get or a fixer-upper (or both, in the aforementioned case). Even now, certain triggers (strong jaw, tragic boyhood story, aviator sunglasses) inspire a primal and immediate magnetism in me. I see a man, presume him bad and think, first, uh oh. Then, game on. Continue Reading →

“I feel like I am always wooing my girl but it doesn’t happen the other way around. I bring her flowers often. I wish occasionally she’d surprise me with a six-pack or my favorite dessert.”
— Dustin, 25   Continue Reading →

Practically everyone is on Facebook these days, and it’s a handy way for guys to check girls out. In a perfect world, what does a gent like to see on a lady’s Facebook page?

Not long ago, Mark Zuckerberg — the world’s youngest potential billionaire, and the world’s least awkward performer (if SNL was any indication) — got a letter from Congress, which is concerned with Facebook sharing our data, like phone numbers, to make money. This got me thinking, when I’m creeping girls on Facebook — I’d like to just say “checking girls out,” but we all know it’s “creeping” — what do I want to see? Continue Reading →