For anyone who’s recently come out of a long relationship /marriage, on-line dating might be a bit intimidating. There’s no stigma these days and apparently there are over 9 million people doing it so come on, it is worth a shot. Your confidence has probably taken a knock, but now’s the time to get back on the horse.

4 Tips For Finding Love Online When You’re In Your Prime

Here are 4 tips to get you going in the mature dating scene.

  1. The Killer Profile.
    This is where you put yourself in the shop window, and while the photos are the first thing that people notice if they’re interested, they’ll read what you have to say about yourself so make it interesting. Guys, this does not mean describing yourself as “honest, reliable, genuine, good with kids”. The ladies viewing your profile are not at Battersea dog’s home choosing a dog, they’re hopefully choosing a funny, exciting man to go on a date with. Ladies I’ll just say this…Make sure that you’re wearing appropriate clothing and not showing us all the latest designs in Agent Provocateur. So the rules are, no photos of pets, kids, body bits, caravans, cars, motorbikes and collections of garden gnomes.
  1. Hobbies and Interests.
    Ladies, no-one wants to hear about your cat, which day you go to Slimming World, your housekeeping skills, or the grandkids. Keep it a bit fluffy and by all means mention the dancing classes as a lot of guys do like to dance. Now then guys, I would love to know where this beach is in Manchester that you all like to walk along, holding hands. Trust me there isn’t one. I know you’re trying to be romantic but let’s do something else. It’s hard to know what to say on a dating profile when you probably haven’t dated for years but everyone’s probably feeling a bit nervous so just try to keep it as honest as you can. And whatever you do, don’t ever put on your profile that you’re wild and wacky as this just screams “idiot”.
  1. Would Like To Meet.
    Most profiles will ask what is it you are looking for? A relationship, something casual or maybe marriage. Most people will just say looking to date but nothing serious, as this means you can maybe enjoy the dating and meeting lots of people and get more of an idea of the type of person you want. Don’t forget though, while you may have had a physical type years ago the goalposts have changed and let’s just say it’s a good idea to keep an open mind .Having said that don’t put up with unwanted attention, that’s what the block button is for. Ladies be prepared to receive messages from bald toothless old men living in warden controlled flats with access to a computer, don’t feel bad about declining any offers. Maybe the men have the same problem, who knows? Hopefully you’ll soon be exchanging emails/messages with someone interesting who you will actually want to meet.
  1. Now The Fun Begins.
    Not going to lie. There will be times when someone cancels a date as you are actually on the way to meet them, times when in between arranging a date and meeting up the other party has said they’ve met someone (they’re a player) and times when people are obviously in a relationship and just want a penpal. Don’t let this put you off though. On the flip side there will be times when you’ve had a lovely date with a lovely person ( they’re just not for you), had dates with someone who have made you laugh all evening and dates with good looking people with absolutely no personality. A bit like the old days and hopefully you’ll meet someone who you click with and on-line dating will just be a thing of the past. In the meantime, before you hit paydirt and find someone you’d like to spend the rest of your life with, you’re going to have to actually go on a date.

I suggest you keep it short, there’s nothing worse than spending hours with someone with nothing to say. Meeting for a coffee is always a good one as you can keep it short if you’re both just not feeling it and have another mocha chocca double shot vanilla whatsit if you’re both enjoying yourselves. Dress to impress as yes it’s a cliché but first impressions do count. Your date is just as likely to be as nervous as you are about meeting but hopefully you’ve had a couple of phone conversations before the date to get to know a little bit about each other. The main thing though is just enjoy it and take each new experience as it comes. You’re back in the game!


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